For regular readers of Matt & Katie, it would have been hard to miss that we went through a bit of a rough patch a bit back. While things have vastly improved, and we know more than ever how much we love each other, there is still healing going on and the things we learned will be on our minds for some time, probably forever. The reason that I am writing this is tell us to one of the amazing things that came out of this ordeal, the reason that we have made it this far and will continue to get better and better-when things got really bad, we put our trust in God, and we continue to put it there together. This is not something that I could have predicted, or even that I was looking for at all, but it came to us, sort of like a slap in the face. And what a welcome slap it has been.
This has been the most meaningful and important experience in my life to come together with Katie and build this part of us. She has been an amazing guide throughout. We have always had the most amazing relationship, and we did not even realize that something was missing, but our new found spiritually has not only filled a void, it has brought us together like never before. It is amazing that such an enormous change can feel so natural. So lately, we have been praying together, praying for each other, thinking about and discussing God and his role in our lives, and reading the Bible. This is the first time in my life that I have actually sat down to read the Bible, but it is even more amazing of a book than I ever thought.
Here is a passage that has really meant a lot to me lately:
"Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again, Rejoice! Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near. Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding will guard your hearts and your minds in Jesus Christ."
Just this small passage embodies so many wonderful, powerful sentiments: comfort, empowerment, support, joy, gentleness, faith, and love. I feel like before I believed in God but used spirituality when it was convenient, sort of a tool to justify and understand other things. I did not realize the overarching importance of keeping a connection to God at all times, and how important this is for having a complete marriage. This has been fundamental for us, and has allowed us to continue to have an exciting, open, fearless, and loving marriage that we have always have, which is now more true than ever.
So, I leave you with the following thought: open your heart to what is inherently good, true, open, honest, supporting, fearless, and loving, and be on guard for anything that would try to undermine these. This principle took me and Katie to a place we may have not expected, but are so glad to be.